Income From Home

As modest women and stay at home moms. We have to be careful where we invest our money to and make wise decisions to make a income in todays world.

So many people  are asking you to pay $99 -$999 just to join to sell their products! That’s absurd! We should not have to pay out a portion of our savings or last dollar to make a income.

I recently came across this company called Aarix.com and their logo is “The Opportunity Company”. I even humored a meeting of this network company and I WAS NOT impressed!

First off the minimal to join is $349 approximately or even more! I had a associate invest in $1500 to join the company. They sell ant wrinkle crème, water filtration, a supplement line that is promised to help you lose weight if you eat 1200 calories while on the program. The thing is, anyone will lose weight with a diet of 1200 Calories! Where is the real miracle at in that?

So in researching a way to make extra income on the side, I kept a few things in mind.

  1. I didn’t want to invest a amount of money that would hurt to lose.
  2. Needed a in demand item/ items.
  3. An American Brand and Company.

So I found LuLa Roe Leggings and it was way to much to join for me.

Then I found  https://www.mybuskins.com/#fitboutique

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An affiliate team that has a minimal investment of $9.99 and up depending on what package you get. I personally got the 4 pairs of Buskins 2 kids, 1 Size Fits All, and One PlusSkins a plus sized legging company.

Check out my page

https://www.mybuskins.com/#fitboutique

 

Marriage In This World

I am starting to wonder, worry, and contemplate.

IS MARRIAGE MEANT FOR THIS WORLD TODAY?

CAN MARRIAGE BE A THING OF THE PAST, NOW?

MAYBE TODAYS SOCIETY IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR MARRIAGE?           WHY DID I GET MARRIED?

CAN YOU MARRY THE WRONG PERSON?                    DO YOU REALLY NEED A MARRIAGE LICENSE TO BE REALLY BE

MARRIED?

 

AS YOU KNOW I AM MARRIED August 12th, 2015 was my one year wedding anniversary. Well it has not been flattering at all, defiantly memorable and not for a good things. Honestly this year has been absolutely hell for me, I am not saying hell in a worldly way per say. But I am also referring to it that way because the this marriage has been influenced by the enemy himself that lives in hell.

I think I might have cried 90% of this year, that is not an exaggeration. I contemplate divorce almost daily since Christmas Eve.

The man I married is defiantly not who I live with, I know I know partly my fault I didn’t wait longer to get to know him. But with out a doubt, I know ALOT OF THINGS were purposely kept away from me knowing and lied about. NO EXAGGERATION!

My husband has admitted to me on his own and on accident by telling me the truth I think, this time at least. His stories change so much, so I kind of have to deal with what I am told at the moment, until I get a new story or told the same story twice that match (winner truth moment).

 

So back to my questions.

I feel like Marriage is a good thing, but mostly we screw it all up. We get impatient, we are blinded by hormones, we marry fast for financial reasons, or to get away, and some cases to much to drink!  The military world motivates rapid marriages because of deployments, health care, and the distance. My case it was immigration issues, that rushed the process.

So again WE THE PEOPLE rush the process, created the laws, created the paper license, and all the receipts bills for the gala.

I wonder how people were married back in B.C. and Bible times? Was there a legal paper that deemed marriage valid and REAL? I don’t recall the Bible saying anything about Marriage Certificate signed by your state or country. I think that it was like that old wise tale like “I marry You I Marry You I marry You” just like the video below.

 

So I think people complicated it all, now I am stuck a little bit harder to my situation. Sometimes I wish I could say I divorce you, I divorced you, I divorced you and be done. But till its over, it ain’t over and I have to keep trying. I will keep trying till I can officially make up my mind which way I am going.

What are your thoughts on marriage? Answer the questions above and list your own in the comments!

GAURD YOUR HEART, Evaluate, Observe, Validate & repeat! EQUALLY YOKED?

Did you know there is Christian guidelines for dating, courting, and seeking out your partner?

Such as: Find someone in church, REALLY getting to know them, know them before you get to the bedroom talk? And so forth?

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You might not know this but some of you maybe.
I have contemplated on sharing this with you all, but I fully believe in NO one is perfect and when you’re open and honest about your mistakes, some people who listen and internally analyze will learn from it..

I am going to address dating and the single life from a perspective no one has probably did before and its all a true whirl wind event that happened in 20 months!

I FIRST WANT TO SAY THIS PEOPLE IF YOU HAVE RED FLAGS, DO NOT IGNOR THEM DO NOT! I believe that is the holy spirits way of warning you this is not your chosen mate! OKAY

So August 12th, in 4 days will be my one year wedding anniversary! Blissful right? NOPE

I already have a apartment in line to move a hour and half away from my husband. Yes I am leaving my husband.

After a entire year of crying, trying, bending to his wants and demands, I lost myself in depression, sadness, heart break, pain, lies, deceit, adultery, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and mind games beyond my imagination. I found out things about this man that if I knew I would NEVER HAVE MARRIED HIM! I would never have given him a part of my spirit. I do not know who he is at all anymore.

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It took me a long time to officially leave him, because I kept pondering back and forth what did I do to make him do this, was I pretty enough for him, not skinny enough for him,  is it his culture (latino el Salvador), is it his sport of bodybuilding? I don’t know I imagined everything I could, till I seeked out a Christian Counselor, I go on my own, he never attends with me except like 5 times. I REALISED I am fighting for a marriage alone, I valued it more than he did!

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5c8bdbab57b38b66018fde19d2b4c01110 minutes in my session with a recommended women counselor and going through the questionnaire, she immediately stopped me and said “You need to run and don’t look back”, “Your level of abuse is a 8-9 out of ten”. I am so shocked I stop in my tracks with nothing to say and start crying so hard I cant breath! This counselor validated my fears, my embarrassment of the situation, and crushed my hope in ten minutes.

To shorten things up I got guidance and approval for separation from my current pastor and his wife, the counselor, and my previous pastor and counselor I am moving back too. Even my mother! Now that I have this guidance and approval I feel like I am not quitting on my promise in front of GOD. That was a huge mental battle for me. For a while I thought that all my friends and such were just being coaxed by their worldly ways and the devil to tell me his not right for me and I need to leave, but now its validated from the right sources.

I share this with you because I am trying to get out their that if your in a season of singleness please dear Jesus DO NOT RUSH IT, take your time and fully EVALUATE THIS PERSON. If it is GOD blessed and Gods Will it will happen like that fairy and please please revolve your dates around Church really see his relationship with God make sure he seeks God. Because if a man dose not REALLY know God, he will not know what real love is like and how to show it nor reciprocate the love you show him in return.
Get to know this person inside his daily life, his family life, values, and so forth. READ THE BIBLE TOGEATHER and see how each of you interpret the scriptures together. That will show you how well he knows and is seeking this journey.

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My husband don’t even know scriptures. He only knows the things he was taught to remember in Catholic School. He goes to church plays church then goes on to do his own thing. It truly breaks my heart, but I was not patient and well……

This world is getting darker and darker by the day where sin is “in” and purity is old fashioned, the world is so vain and selfish WE HAVE TO BE MORE AND MORE CAUSTIOUS AND GAURDED OF OUR HEARTS, SPIRITS, AND RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD!!!!! 

 

Talking to non believers, just like a intellectual disscussion

How do you talk to non believers or those of other faiths?

I approach this in a way that you would talk to anyone about anything else. Just like talking about something you saw on Facebook or YouTube. Tell them in a general way that is not aggressive or assertive and high light your own curiosity that was aroused by it. Then show them a picture that is worth a thousand words and then the scripture.

No reasonable person can deny photographic evidence that matches the word describing from 2000 years ago!

Yeah maybe the ones who want to lie to themselves, just like lying about Angel Food Cake being sent from heaven and it won’t stick to your rump! LOL LOL

Tonight I went to a Thai food place and some how got on the conversation of religion and faith. The young Thai boy mentioned how these Christians came in and talked his leg off about GOD. Well I never liked to be force fed anything myself so I talked to him about how I am Christian also and that one time I went to a questioning of Faith, like we all do.  During this time I still attended a bible study hosted at out church and it was amazing, I now will never ever question my faith again. I know for sure A BIBLE BASED/ READING/ LIVING CHURCH IS THE BEST and not manipulated.

So I explained to him that in this Bible study I was pointed out scientific facts and discoveries that validated the Bible and his interested peaked. I even told him if you don’t believe me ‘Google ” it. Now that’s serious business there.

But here buddy let me show you two real quick on my phone and you can see for your self.

I mentioned to him “Did you know there is a snake with feet?” … No way? Really?

Yes! It is even validated in the bible look at this pic and then I will show you the Bible verse…  (CREEPY I KNOW)

Video of Snake with Feet

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The verse for the curse of Snakes to have no feet

So the LORD God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, “Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life.

Noah’s Ark

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The Real Noah’s Ark Found Documentary Film!

Bible Study over Noah’s Ark with Scriptures

Read more I CHALLENGE YOU TO OPEN AND READ YOUR BIBLE. Don’t just sit there and hope for someone to read it or quote it accurately to you. Get off your spiritual potato couch and read. I gave you starter points to start digging and I challenge you to find more ways the Bible is validated through science today. Comment below!

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Whats up with how Pentecostal Women Dress?

All my life growing up I dressed in the Holiness look. Super long hair, no jewelry etc, for wedding bands, skirts or dresses, no make up and so forth. I remember to this day at 32 years old when I first wore shorts, bought my first pair of pants, and got my ears pierced.

I also remember why I did it all and now I regret it more than ever that I caved to peer pressure.

First off I want to give you some references to look up in the Bible after all the Bible is the word we are learning from and trying to follow correct?

1 Corinthians, Chapter 11; 14-16 – The basic rule that is referenced to read. – “Does not nature itself teach you that if a man indeed has long hair, it is a disrespect to him? And if a woman has long hair, it is an esteem to her, because the long hair has been given to her over against a veil. If, however, anyone seems to be contentious (causing to have an argument), we do not have such a habit, nor do the assemblies of Elohim”.

Did you know……The word “hair” is mentioned 64 times. The word “hairs” is mentioned 15 times. Some of the references in relation to the word hair also refer to animal hair.

We will now see the verses that particularly refer to “hair length” from the Scriptures in its chronological order.

Numbers 6:5 -“All the days of the vow (Nazirite) of his separation a razor does not come upon his head. Until the days are completed for which he does separate himself to YHWH, he is set apart. He shall let the locks of the hair of his head grow long”.

2 Samuel 14:26 – “And when he cut the hair of his head, for it was at every year’s end that he cut it because it was heavy on him, when he cut it, he weighed the hair of his head at two hundred sheqels by the sovereign’s weight”.

Ezekiel 44:20 – “And their heads they shall not shave, nor shall they let their hair grow long, they shall keep their hair well-trimmed.”

John 11:2 – “Now it was Miryam who anointed the Master with perfume and wiped His feet with her hair, whose brother Elazar was sick”.

On with my story.. I was constantly asked “Are you Amish?” “Are you in a cult?” “Why do you wear dresses all the time?

“You look so old fashioned!”. And the list goes on to an extent I don’t care to reflect on it any more. Just remember how cruel kids are and some ignorant adults are! Yes, they had their fair share to say too! My whole family picked on me ALL THE TIME TOO!!! SERIOUSLY!!!

My first pair of shorts, was a red jumper set kind of like Left Eye Lopez would wear in the 90’s. Man when those were given to me I wore them ever chance I could because of the acceptance I got and Ooohs and Aaahhhs, do I see those people any more? NO! Then I stopped wearing them and went back to the right way. And the pressure started. I guess because the external problems with my dad being really sick and my mom basically a single mother she just got tired of hearing me getting picked on. And two weeks after my father passed away I bought my first pair of pants, in the 90’s it was the trend to get the baggy jeans. My best friend at the time went in with me and helped me pick them out, I walked out in them and again The Attention….. I wore these to my birthday held after my fathers passing and never stopped from there on.

See the devil works just like a child works to get his way.. Centimeter by millimeter, inched by inched, and then run a million miles with it before you blink and notice.

I then got my ears pierced at 18-19 years old at WalMart. Why? I really don’t know honestly I don’t wear them often anymore. Then when I got married I went to get my hair trimmed a little and it ended up to my shoulders and never been as long as it once was… But I am changing that now.

See I know now the importance of  NOT playing with the Worlds approved look of appearance..

I don’t know about you but I want to stand out from the world. I don’t want to look nothing like it anymore, I don’t need the worlds approval anymore, I want to minimize the distractions between me and getting closer to GOD, I don’t want too look good to the world I want to look good to GOD, and I want my husband to think I am beautiful with out the make up and jewelry.  

Some history and Biblical References: Please read this and validate it by opening up the word.

How do you measure the length of a woman’s hair? In ancient Biblical times, women used to not cut their hair.  Hair length in women was always based on the length of her arm (see Figure 5). Why do you think women in Asia and in the Middle East have long hair (based on their arm length)? The reason being, it is passed from one generation to another that women must have long hair.

Why do women these days in Western countries have short hair?

The reason being, they have embraced the lifestyle of prostitutes without even knowing that years ago people used to identity a prostitute (whore) by short hair. Even though these are harsh words directed to a woman, the truth cannot be hidden. Ask your great grandparents what did the word flapper mean? The word flapper means prostitute. Why did it mean prostitute? Because these women used to cut their hair short to identify themselves as prostitutes. That is why in 1920s if women had short hair they used to wear a beautiful hat, so that they would not be identified as prostitutes or as a flapper.

For instance the Encyclopedia Wikipedia says, “flappers were a new breed of young Western women in the 1920s who wore short skirts, bobbed (shortened/cut) their hair, listened to jazz, and flaunted (display) their disdain (contempt) for what was then considered acceptable behavior. Flappers were seen as brash for wearing excessive makeup, drinking, treating sex in a casual manner, smoking, driving automobiles, and otherwise flouting (openly disregard) social and sexual norms.”

Have you noticed that, in the 20th century, all women prisoners in many countries had their hair shaved off or had very short hair? This was a punishment prescribed by law in many countries. Many pagan religions around the world practice short hair on women, like Buddhist monks and other religions. The question that women need to ask themselves is: do you want to be a part of this custom that originates from paganism?

We can see that over time, as a society, our norms have degraded. What is evil we say is good. What is good we say is evil.  In the Israelite custom, when the hair of a woman was too long and was not manageable, they used to measure the hair using their arm length and excess hair was cut off. This is the same custom that is followed in many countries in Asia and in the Middle East.

It is natural for women to have long hair, as this is how you were created by YHWH. While today’s society teaches that short hair on women is the accepted standard, the Scriptures and the traditions of our forefathers and patriarchs teach us that long hair is the beauty of women.

Understanding Length in Biblical times

In Biblical times the measures of length originated from the human body. In many cultures around the world, people still use fingers, hand, arm, and foot to define length. For example, people living in countries like India and Egypt still use hand/foot measurements to define length. These measures vary between every person based on their height, weight and physique.

In ancient Israel length was classified as following:

  1. Finger-breadth – In Hebrew it is called “Etzba.” A fingerbreadth has the width of an adult human finger. For example, the phrase two fingers of whiskey refer to the amount of whiskey that would fill a glass to the level of two fingers wrapped around the glass at the bottom.
  2. Palm – In Hebrew it is called “Tefah” or “Tefach.” A palm breadth is based on the breadth of a human hand without the thumb and fingers measured from the fist.
  3. Span – In Hebrew it is called “Zeret.”  A span is the distance measured from the tip of the thumb to the tip of the little finger.
  4. Ell- In Hebrew it is called “Amah.” An ell is the length of arm from the elbow to the tip of the middle finger.
  5. Mile – In Hebrew it is called “Mil.” Mil is the distance walked in 18 minutes.
  6. Parsa – In Hebrew it is called “Parasa.” Parasa is the distance walked in 72 minutes.

Make Up and Jewelry…

1 Timothy 2: 9-11 9. In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness [reserved and bashful] and sobriety; not with broided [elaborate] hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly [expensive] array [clothing]; 10. But (which becometh women professing godliness ) with good works. 11. Let the woman learn in subjection.

Satan’s Eden – 65-0829
Notice, it was Eve that Satan used to make Adam sin by her power of lust. Now, doing the same thing today… Notice, bobbed hair, painted faces, sexually dressed (See?), she does that, and don’t know that every one of those things is contrary to the Word of God. To cut her hair makes her a dishonorable woman, a prostitute. To wear shorts puts her disgracefully. Put sexy dresses on her makes her a prostitute, and she don’t know it, not because of the holiness of God; because the lust of Satan.

“Well, there’s no harm in that.” If you love the world or the things of the world, it’s because the love of God’s not even in you.”

Biblical stories of women who adorn jewelry and Make Up

Bathsheba, told in 2 Samuel 11

Delilah ~ Judges 16:4-21

Salome ~ Mark 6:14-29, Matthew 14:1-12  She deceived Solomon

Jezebel ~ 1 Kings 16:29-34, 18:17-40, 19:1-3; the episode of Naboth’s vineyard 1 Kings 21:1-16; the death of Jezebel and her family 1 Kings 22:29-40, 2 Kings 9:21-28, 9:30-37

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Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

And you, O desolate one, what do you mean that you dress in scarlet, that you adorn yourself with ornaments of gold, that you enlarge your eyes with paint? In vain you beautify yourself. Your lovers despise you; they seek your life.

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world.

Palm (Tefah)

8 – 9.6 cms

Span (Zeret)

24 – 28.8 cms

Ell (Amah)

48 – 57.6 cms

Mile (Mil)

960 – 1152 meters

Finding your home church after moving.

How many times have you heard of someone just moving to the local area and they say something along the lines of “we are still visiting churches to find the one we like” or something of that nature?

I have heard it many times being with the military for so long. And sadly a lot of searches end up in a stale search and they get caught up with life. That results in another victory for the devil, more souls separated from the truth that we need to keep diving in to keep fresh.

 

I just moved to the Greensboro area and been here since late August. Yes I was busy and caught up in settling in things and finding schools and my new job etc. But my search for a home church was the easiest part of the whole transition.

United Pentecostal churches are networked together and if the  church says they are Pentecostal and not on the website some how then chances it is not legit. My last home church in Raleigh, NC was Temple of Pentecost (TOP) off of Lake Wheeler Road. I was at a service not to long ago and go figure the head pastor there is friends with the (now) pastor I grew up with in my home town area of Ohio & Kentucky!

Isn’t that amazing!  I heard this and was like WOW this really is home I guess.

“It’s a small world after all”

So my husband and I found out we were moving and knowing how our network is I started talking to fellow members. And sure enough a family knew where to go here, they took are contacts down, and the next day the wife of their son called me up. These total strangers came to the apt with young help and we had the U-Haul truck unloaded in 30 minuets!! Thank You Jesus for blessing us with that help.

But if you are completely new and want to find a UPC Church near you visit this link http://www.upci.com/churchlocator/default.aspx

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Well after things settled I went with my step son who doesn’t speak English well right now, he is new to the country. We get there and the members who helped us welcomed us and it just FELT RIGHT and not awkward at all. Then there were Spanish speakers who helped the boy out with translation and the church now has him in their private English lesson classes. This network made it feel like we were going from family to family and not like we were starting all over again.

Some Scriptures to read About friendships and being their for one another.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV 

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Proverbs 27:17 ESV 

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.

Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV 

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

1 Peter 4:8-10 ESV 

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace:

 

So you won’t be hearing us say WELL WE ARE STILL SEARCHING FOR THE RIGHT FIT. 

MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!

LETS PRAISE HIS NAME NOW FOR THE NEW BEGINNINGS AND LIFE HE HAS PLANNED OUT FOR OUR FAMILY.

Child discipline according to the Bible “Pentacostals are a Bible believe church”

“THE CHILD WHO WAS NOT DISCIPLINED BY HIS LITTLE WORLD WITH LOVE, WILL BE DISCIPLINED BY THE WORLD WITH OUT LOVE!”

So all my life I have been a very realistic person and well A LOT of people could not swallow me. But it is just like how they say people don’t want to hear the truth or feel that feeling of conviction when they hear it and know they should check their selves!

I think I get a lot of the Boldness and confidence in speaking the truth, with out fear is being raised Pentecostal. It is just how we are raised, you won’t meet a child raised in a Pentecostal environment ever act out like a lot of kids you see today. Throwing tantrums, saying “NO”, or saying “I hate your mommy”, and so forth. We are also raised to admit to what we do wrong, face the consequences, learn from them, and Never do them again.

I truthfully can say I remember seeing other kids my age growing up throwing fits and I look at them at that young age thinking what is your problem? I even hear through out my life till this age of 32 people saying that I am very mature for my age and respectable also. There is a reason for this and I am thankful for it!

Day One

Last night my pastors wife started a 3 day class she has perfected over the years, she titles it.



“DONT SPANK THAT CHILD UNLESS YOU LOVE HIM”

“WHY?”



1: People Magazine once asked the question “are American kids getting out of control?

Are American kids getting out of control?

“And how, sigh seven out of 10 readers, most of them weary parents and grandparents. But they aren’t alone—more than half the teenagers think so too. “

2: It’s biblical to ask the Lord for DIRECTION for raising our off spring.

3: Psalms 18:30 “As for God, His WAY is PERFECT.”

4:Perfect means, COMPLETE without defect or blemish.

5: Everything in the modern HOME is controlled by a SWITCH except the CHILDREN.”

6: Our challenge is to become so familiar with the BIBLE way of correction that we will never be deceived by UN-BIBLICAL EXTREMES.”

6:(a)The DISIPLINARIAN or hard as Concrete. The disciplinarian is MILITARISTIC in style to the last degree. Cold, unfeeling, and stern. The hand quickly used by an angry parent for anything , anytime, any place. A slap, pinch, knock, or kick could come at any time for any small or big infraction.

6: (b) The LIBERTARIAN or soft as Cotton. The libertarian stresses that fact that we are all basically good on the inside. It will eventually come out of if you will be careful to push your thoughts, values, and feelings on them. Let them express themselves completely and never suppress their anger or temper tantrums. Never spank a child for it will make him/ her learn to use violence with others. Avoid CONFRONTATION at any cost. (ignore tantrums and just let them grow in to their own person)

NEITHER IS THE PROPER APPROACH ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE. THEY ARE CONTERFEIT OF THE ORIGINAL FOR OF LOVINGLY CORRECTING YOUR CHILD.


(THE CONTERFEIT WAY IS THE WAY THAT CAUSES PAIN)


7: It doesn’t matter if His instructions please our INTELLECT or our EMOTIONS. We must move in obedience and faith.

8: Proverbs 29:17 “Correct they son and he shall give the REST.”

9: PUNISHMENT is what you do to a child; DISCIPLINE is what you do for a child.

10: The initial PARENT control, merges into SELF control. A child that is never parent controlled will most likely never be self-controlled.

11: I Timothy 3:4 Talks about one that” ruleth will his own household, having his children in SUBJECTION with all GRAVITY.” (SUBJECTIONS ROOT WORD, A PERSON THAT IS UNDERPOWER) Control or influence of another. The act or process of bringing under: If a child is not under subjection to parents, he won’t be to God.

12: Proverbs 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the ROD of CORRECTION shall drive it far from him.”

13: Proverbs 2:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will bot depart from it.”

14: Proverbs 29:19 “By mere WORDS a servant is not disciplined, for though he understands, he will not give heed.”

15: James 1:20: “The anger of man dose NOT work the righteousness of GOD.”

16: Proverbs 19:27 “Cease, my son , to hear INSTRUCTION that causes to err from the words of knowledge.” (The bible)

17: Psalms 1:1 “Blessed is the man who walked not in the COUNSEL of the UNGODLY.”

18: Hebrews 12:11 “Now no chastening, for the PRESENT seemth to be joyous, but grievous; Nevertheless afterward it yielded the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.”

WE ARE COMPARING A MOMENT OF PAIN, TO A LIFETIME OF GAIN!!!!!


19: I know the Bible says it, but I love my child too much to inflict. PAIN on him, PROVERBS 13:24 “He who spares the rod, HATES his son, but he that loves him chastened him betimes”


ALL PARENTS WHO LOVE THEIR CHILDREN DO CHASTEN THEM!

20: Hebrews 12:5-8 When we do not discipline our children, we are treating them not as sons, but as ILLEGITIMATE offspring.

21: Proverbs 19:18: “Chasten they son while there is hope and let not they soul spare for his crying.”

22: Proverbs 23:13-14 “Withhold not correction from the Child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod and shall deliver his SOUL from HELL.

23: The WORD is not always sweet to the taste; it’s bitter, but the end result is WONDERFUL.

24: Romans 12:2: “…..and be not conformed to this world.”

IT’S NOT UNCHRISTIAN TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN WITH LOVE, IN FACT IT’S UNCHRISTIAN NOT TO!


THE CHILD WHO WAS NOT DISCIPLINED BY HIS LITTLE WORLD WITH LOVE, WILL BE DISCIPLINED BY THE WORLD WITH OUT LOVE!

Article to read that validate the Bible way, is the right way in todays world.

Dr. Benjamin Spock, “Started the no spanking movement with child rearing.”

Parents vs. Teachers Round Two by CNN

CNN article “What Teachers Want to Tell Parents”

Confessions of a Spanking Parent

Why I am Pentacostal

Because it is the RAW truth, the truth that usually hurts peoples feelings and chases them away.

Because it is REAL! I have been raised in the church since a child and about the age of 16 my father died and I started to “back slide” some but I still have purities of a Pentecostal girl. Long hair, no pierced ears, no tattoos, and not tainted by one evil thing in this world. I was different because I didn’t curse or have fun in the worldly ways. But then I made a mistake and married a unequally yoke person.

That’s a thing suggested to not due in the bible marry unequally yoked, the husband is supposed to lead you closer to God and that only makes you better.

So I started wearing pants, got my ears pierced, and got a tattoo after my separation started. I went to clubs, I drank some (not to drunkenness). Then after so many years of being out of church and God out of sight and out of mind. I started to notice the things I mentioned in other entries here. Sex crazed world, fake friends, being lonely, and so forth. So I promised myself I would start going to a good church or church hunting.

At first I visited a few churches Baptist, Catholic, Non-Denominational, and I felt like the church was just dead to me. I would shake hands with members and the handshake was just dead. The sermons would seem to repeat every time and I was not learning anything at all about the Bible.

Then I found a Non-Denominational church it was great but I feel it was more of a “baby step” to the real truth. I like the church a lot because it had so many activities and I could wear make up and what ever I wanted and not be judged. But I wasn’t learning much of the Bible like I should have been. There was a lesson each week and repeat on Thursdays and Sundays only. There was no LEARNING or Teaching of how to really dig in the BIBLE and learn how to use it and understand it. I found myself just listening to the preacher saying his sermon and believing him, I was still feeling empty some how!

Yes I Spoke In Tongues!

Acts 2:38 ESV / 23 helpful votes

And Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. (If you truly do confess, aim for a better life, thankful for GOD You will receive the HOLY GHOST it is promised to us ALL!)

Then one day at church I had just about gave up on trying in life, I was developing more close relationship with GOD by having to just go to church. So I knew I was moving in the right direction. That day during the worship service the song “I will Rise” came on and I sang along praising to GOD inside my head saying to GOD I will rise to be better from here on out, I am sorry so sorry for turning my back on you, over and over again I kept praying to GOD during this song, IN a church that dose not speak in tongues or have the holy ghost. I spoke to GOD in my heart asking him to really work in me and keep doing what he was doing in my life, I feel the change for the better by me walking closer towards him and I wont ever forget the dark days of my life that way I will never ever want to go back to those days. I was so sincere in this “one on one” prayer to GOD in my heart I felt tears come out the corners of my eyes, and then I just started thanking him for the changes he has done, the gifts he has blessed me with and will bless me with. Then my body started to get really warm and heated and I was with my hands up and open and eyes closed towards heaven. I opened my eyes and noticed I was the only one still standing and singing. This AMAZING breakthrough to a new me! Was so so so so great and powerful that I knew from then on I would not be the same again, A TRUE REPENTANCE AND SOULD SAVING MOMENT! I looked around and felt the whole church was watching me, I didn’t really care but there I knew that just praising him with out emotion and just going through the service IS NOT TRUE SALVATION. Its their baby steps.

New Beginning Again

Ezekiel 46:9New International Version (NIV)

“‘When the people of the land come before the Lord at the appointed festivals, whoever enters by the north gate to worship is to go out the south gate; and whoever enters by the south gate is to go out the north gate. No one is to return through the gate by which they entered, but each is to go out the opposite gate. (Basically when you walk in to the house of God your supposed to walk out different and changed)

Once you feel the emotions of REALLY repenting and praising GOD you will receive the HOLY Ghost and there is none of that “game” of going to church Sunday after spending all night at the club to, do it all over again the next weekend. There will be A HUGE TIDE WAVE OF CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE.

So why I am Pentecostal?

Because of the very fact that I was alone in that church, I really truly did confess for a new beginning, and received the Holy Ghost all by myself I was reminded that THIS IS REAL and I want to be as close to it as possible and learn more and more about it. I was thirsty for more Jesus! I was thirsty for more truth that is proven to me by scripture, not just going with what’s told to me. I wanted to be near others who knew this feeling and will only better me towards GODS will. Remember that I received the Holy Ghost on my own in a Huge Non Denominational Church, during a real heart to heart confessional talk with GOD. I was not following what others did by any means at all. I was just truthfully sincerely talking to GOD.

If your curious as to the BIBLICAL truth of GOD and Receiving the HOLY GHOST I encourage your to read Acts Chapter 2.

Thirsty and desperate @ 49

We all have the special friend. The one who we like on certain days, can hang out with on occasion, yet we rarely introduce them to other people in our lives. For numerous reasons, my reasons are simple. To avoid being embarrassed for that person and myself, avoid being judged by their actions (we act as who we hang with), drama, and just to avoid the bull hocky.

Now wait I bet you ask why not leave this person alone and step on? Well they are just one of those that you can’t seem to get rid of because they don’t know how to let go!

OKAY, so this female I know personally and going on 5 years now. WOW the lesson of patience is well embedded in me. Ha! Is supposed to be the mature age of 49 but here is the true living example that age is just a number and by no means AT ALL means your more mature than the next generation. This female and I will continue to call her that because sure dose not deserve the title of lady, women, girl, or what ever has did the below list of things on a REGULAR BASIS!

THE LIST OF HOW NOT TO ACT LIKE A LADY.

*These events are completely true, unedited, and I was sadly involved against my will*

Stood up in my SUV sunroof to remove her top and allow her bare chest feel the freedom of 35mph air rushing through her cleavage.

Got trashed drunk at my 4th of July party in “12” to do a VERY sexually provocative strip tease/ lap dance on my guy friend who she just met 30 minuets before the incident of question. Then to pass out on my bed vomit all over my sheets, on to the floor, and in my moms luggage bag! The next morning discreetly leaves and dose not clean it up, leaves it to me and still argues she is a classy lady! UGH

My mother was visiting from more than 7 hours away one summer, so she gave her a ride to my job and managed to completely sexually harass a senior coworker of mine, as well manage to eye “adore” him in a manor he jetted, and still to this day talks about who sleazy she was. At my work!

Tells me all her sex-capades and stories of one night stands and shenanigans, but still some how only has been with 2 people since her divorce 4 years ago.

Takes photographs with photographers with her breast out, nipples showing, and wonders how they got on the internet!! DUH!!! I wonder how that happen?

This past weekend she got very drunk and was out at a public place myself and our mutual friend was there trying to help her get out of public. During this time we are sitting there giving her coffee and water, TRYING to keep composure of the scene. We tell her we are taking her home and she instead wants to go with the two women she has known for almost 5 years on a close basis, she rather call a one night stand guy she met a week ago? Where is the logic in this? But can you see the problem here?

Annnnnnddd the list goes on. But now you get the “jist” of the picture!

So I bet the question is gravely stirring in your mind, why continue to stick around this ignorance? A few reasons actually.

Hopes that I can be an example to unveil her true reality: Lead by example, one day it will click in her head that hey I am this age and she is only 31, look how mature and put together she is. Ahh the power of positive comparison.

Kindness to her will help her more but I still keep my boundaries, I am far from used on a unhealthy level.

I know the root of her problems, SHE IS LONELY.  When myself and friend was there to help her she seek out a male who she did not know at all. She divorced 4 years ago out of a 15 year marriage and will do anything to get any type of attention for a quick fix from a man. She is so consumed and focused on that lonely feeling that she can not focus on “the real” or her “present now”. Think of a dog chasing its tale, they are so fixated on getting that tale they keep going in circles as fast as they can, bumping in to stuff, tripping, and don’t even realize a bowl of food was put out. The dog is just consumed in the circle its making and his tail. And on top of that when your spinning or going so fast things are just a blur on the outside. Like sitting in a car going fast, the view outside seems like a blur too.

This is why we need to slow down, learn the impact of having “girlfriends”, fellowship, and productive activities. These type of encounters can help subside that feeling of loneliness and distracted you in a positive way.

So how can you slow down?

Meditation, yoga, book reading, naps, work, church, walks outdoors.

Reading the Bible OF COURSE, just silence to yourself alone!

Creating a balance!  So here is some great YouTube videos that I defiantly agree with

A 5 part series that show if your desperate for love and attention. Look for positive attention that not only feeds you but makes your grow. Enjoy these videos.

Part One:

Never Ending Calls and Text.     http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9d27O88Pemc

Part Two:

Paying For Love and Attention. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0fttZgIgNg

Part Three:

Flash Without Class. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5oXkrgbJRgQ

Part Four:

Your Time Will Tell. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GhAky_6MlJI   **** MUST WATCH****

Part Five:

BEGGING  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHq-9t67R6U

Protect the “Cookie” and separate the MEN from the BOYS.

“Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?” 

So we have all heard the quote above, but we all most likely shrugged it off as being old-fashioned, that’s not true, and what ever else we could think of to not take it seriously to heart and mind. Over the course of the past years when I was off the wagon of walking right as a lady should, I was insecure and looking to just get accepted by every guy I dated trying to keep him around. Thinking that if I had sex with him and I was good at it he would stay!!!!!! Crazy I know INSANE!!! Well it never worked EVER, NOT ONCE!!!

It always resulted in one night stands, them leaving, and when they run in to a “dry spell” they would mysteriously pop back up wonder how I am doing! Honestly how many of you ladies know how this is and feels? I look back and greatly regret it all to the fullest tenth power. Thankfully I came to reality and I started to do some various polls of random men I met at a bar, friends, and when ever the mood striked it that it was okay to ask.

I asked married, divorced, single men of all ages and even gay men these questions.

Q: Do you think if a girl has sex to soon with a guy, he looses all respect and interest?

A: Yes without a doubt we do lose interest and respect because if she was that easy for me, then how easy is she when another smooth talker comes up to her? What if I am gone away for work, how am I to know she has self-control to wait for me?

Q: If a man really cares for her and looks at her seriously in a romantic sense, will he wait for her on her terms?

A: YES YES, NO DOUBT ABOUT IT, YES, YES,

Q: If he is only about sex and no commitment how can you tell?

A: If he starts talking anything remotely sexually related with in the first 3 dates, he gets pawsy, and if he has not gotten any beyond date 5 he will move on QUICK!

So now there is a trend here obviously, not once did the genuine / un biased replies differ. NOT ONCE!

Well now the light is starting to shine on this and all those bull crap lines. Men who are only after I call it “The Cookie” are like sales persons at those kiosk in the mall. They shoot you as many persuasions as possible during that short walk past them hoping for one to strike your attention, then if you don’t bite then go to the girl right behind you in your path! As if they never even talked to you. This same pattern goes for clubs, dating site, and work too, have you ever set back and watched? I challenge you to that. Maybe you know a colleague like this? It can happen anywhere!

So say you meet a “sale person” who caught your attention and  you decided to take a closer look. He is cute to you, nice, the attraction is there. Now he is going to lay it on heavier to keep you wrapped up in the “game of persuasion” till your sold and give him the money or “The Cookie”. Then he gets the money (cookie) and you leave then he starts right back over with the next girl walking past him!

Have you ever read the book I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell? If you have not well its a journal format book by a young guy from Chapel Hill, NC. He was attending UNC for a law degree, very educated, well spoken, clean-cut, and attractive to many. He defiantly had the look you would be proud to show your parents. Problem is this guy is proudly confessing his degrading acts towards women sexually in the most disrespectful ways possible. Here is a quote from him, in his own words.

 “Ladies, let me give you some advice. You can throw all your stupid fucking chick-lit, self-help, why-doesn’t-he-love-me books out, because this is all you need to know: Men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as “deserving” respect; you get what you demand from people.. if you demand respect, he will either respect you or he won’t associate with you. It really is that simple.”
Tucker Max, I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell

Tucker Max - 140TC

Read between the lines and you will get the idea of his vulgar book! After I read this book I think I hated men for a while. On top of all these crazy acts he did to women and daughters he became rich from it! He made millions off of treating women like crap! Because they allowed it to happen, they gave in, they fell for the lines, and used poor moral judgement. If they protected “The Cookie” they would not have contributed to this demented mockery and he would have went to the next in line and hope she bites the hook!

Question for you how many times were you laughed after the fact, how many times were you the topic of discussion in the boys locker room, and how strong are you standing by yourself to not allow this to happen again?

Now to make this a little more personal let me share some real testimonial stories from my experiences that “protecting the cookie” is the best policy. See I live in a military town and I get asked out a lot and if they strike me I will go out, for at least an evening out, and an open mind to possibilities of something real happening. The last guy I was interested in whew lawwwwdddd he was fine, tall, tan, handsome, athletic, we had chemistry, we clicked, and had good conversations. I mean we talked on the phone for hours! I was really feeling hopeful on this one!

So from day one I laid out the law iterating over again and in different ways, that sex is not on the menu! We had four dates, movie “The Furnace”, dinner, rock climbing, and then another movie “The Hobbit”. Over the course of time and our time out he was a gentlemen, non sexual, opened doors, and I mean did everything right! Then the last date night came at the movies, I felt comfortable with him to come to my place and we watched another movie and laughed over tea. I told him clearly no “cookie”. He tried of course and I denied him, let me tell you when a man gets denied, then sits alone in quiet thought, its done ladies. That moment right there he is debate on if he wants to pursue you romantically and wait for sex or he wants only sex then time to move on to the next. So he stood up and I asked him to speak up, whats he thinking? I already knew the answer was its done. He said and I quote “you know I don’t think this is going to work” “the whole sex thing, I can’t wait on someone when I don’t know if its good sex”. Can you believe that I am being judged on how good my sex is, before my heart, mind, soul, spirit, personality, and what ever else!

But because I stood my grounds, laid down the law, demanded my expectations to be met, and respected. I was protected! My time, heart, feelings, body, and becoming a gossip in the boys locker room was protected! He didn’t even last a full week and a half! How pathetic is that, how can you call that a man? A man has control of himself. Now to clarify this is not the only time it has worked, I have “protected the cookie” since my promise of celibacy and it has weeded out the “dawgs”. Because of holding out and seeing their real intentions, I can move on easier with out hurt or pain. I see now that I am not the problem they are the problem.

I am writing this for all those ladies out there hoping to find love, real love, and that soul mate feeling. The ones who havent lost hope. I hope to make a movement to turn around the world of dating and stop the madness! Stop the tears and the pain by showing the young ladies to older single ladies that there is nothing better than “old school”, so let’s make a change and take the wheel of control again!