We all have the special friend. The one who we like on certain days, can hang out with on occasion, yet we rarely introduce them to other people in our lives. For numerous reasons, my reasons are simple. To avoid being embarrassed for that person and myself, avoid being judged by their actions (we act as who we hang with), drama, and just to avoid the bull hocky.
Now wait I bet you ask why not leave this person alone and step on? Well they are just one of those that you can’t seem to get rid of because they don’t know how to let go!
OKAY, so this female I know personally and going on 5 years now. WOW the lesson of patience is well embedded in me. Ha! Is supposed to be the mature age of 49 but here is the true living example that age is just a number and by no means AT ALL means your more mature than the next generation. This female and I will continue to call her that because sure dose not deserve the title of lady, women, girl, or what ever has did the below list of things on a REGULAR BASIS!
THE LIST OF HOW NOT TO ACT LIKE A LADY.
*These events are completely true, unedited, and I was sadly involved against my will*
Stood up in my SUV sunroof to remove her top and allow her bare chest feel the freedom of 35mph air rushing through her cleavage.
Got trashed drunk at my 4th of July party in “12” to do a VERY sexually provocative strip tease/ lap dance on my guy friend who she just met 30 minuets before the incident of question. Then to pass out on my bed vomit all over my sheets, on to the floor, and in my moms luggage bag! The next morning discreetly leaves and dose not clean it up, leaves it to me and still argues she is a classy lady! UGH
My mother was visiting from more than 7 hours away one summer, so she gave her a ride to my job and managed to completely sexually harass a senior coworker of mine, as well manage to eye “adore” him in a manor he jetted, and still to this day talks about who sleazy she was. At my work!
Tells me all her sex-capades and stories of one night stands and shenanigans, but still some how only has been with 2 people since her divorce 4 years ago.
Takes photographs with photographers with her breast out, nipples showing, and wonders how they got on the internet!! DUH!!! I wonder how that happen?
This past weekend she got very drunk and was out at a public place myself and our mutual friend was there trying to help her get out of public. During this time we are sitting there giving her coffee and water, TRYING to keep composure of the scene. We tell her we are taking her home and she instead wants to go with the two women she has known for almost 5 years on a close basis, she rather call a one night stand guy she met a week ago? Where is the logic in this? But can you see the problem here?
Annnnnnddd the list goes on. But now you get the “jist” of the picture!
So I bet the question is gravely stirring in your mind, why continue to stick around this ignorance? A few reasons actually.
Hopes that I can be an example to unveil her true reality: Lead by example, one day it will click in her head that hey I am this age and she is only 31, look how mature and put together she is. Ahh the power of positive comparison.
Kindness to her will help her more but I still keep my boundaries, I am far from used on a unhealthy level.
I know the root of her problems, SHE IS LONELY. When myself and friend was there to help her she seek out a male who she did not know at all. She divorced 4 years ago out of a 15 year marriage and will do anything to get any type of attention for a quick fix from a man. She is so consumed and focused on that lonely feeling that she can not focus on “the real” or her “present now”. Think of a dog chasing its tale, they are so fixated on getting that tale they keep going in circles as fast as they can, bumping in to stuff, tripping, and don’t even realize a bowl of food was put out. The dog is just consumed in the circle its making and his tail. And on top of that when your spinning or going so fast things are just a blur on the outside. Like sitting in a car going fast, the view outside seems like a blur too.
This is why we need to slow down, learn the impact of having “girlfriends”, fellowship, and productive activities. These type of encounters can help subside that feeling of loneliness and distracted you in a positive way.
So how can you slow down?
Meditation, yoga, book reading, naps, work, church, walks outdoors.
Reading the Bible OF COURSE, just silence to yourself alone!
Creating a balance! So here is some great YouTube videos that I defiantly agree with
A 5 part series that show if your desperate for love and attention. Look for positive attention that not only feeds you but makes your grow. Enjoy these videos.
Part One:
Never Ending Calls and Text. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9d27O88Pemc
Part Two:
Paying For Love and Attention. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b0fttZgIgNg
Part Three:
Flash Without Class. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5oXkrgbJRgQ
Part Four:
Your Time Will Tell. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GhAky_6MlJI **** MUST WATCH****
Part Five:
BEGGING http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHq-9t67R6U
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